Loving Someone with BPD: What Helps and What Hurts
Loving someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can feel like an emotional rollercoaster, deeply connected one moment, and pushed away the next. If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Am I helping or making things worse?”, you’re not alone. This article offers a compassionate guide on how to support your partner with BPD, what truly helps, what unintentionally hurts, and how to care for your mental health along the way. Boundaries and love can coexist, and this piece shows you how.
Establishing Healthy Boundaries
Boundaries aren’t ultimatums or punishments-they’re clarity. They’re not about controlling others but about knowing ourselves. And yet, for many people-especially those with anxious attachment or a history of trauma-setting a boundary can feel like setting off a bomb.
Why? Because when you’ve learned that love is earned through self-abandonment, saying “I need this to feel safe” feels risky. Even cruel.
We live in a world where therapy-speak is everywhere, yet understanding how to embody boundaries-especially in the face of fear, guilt, or people-pleasing-is still elusive. In this piece, we unpack the difference between healthy limits and covert control, and why some people simply can’t set boundaries… yet.
Pills or Practices? Finding What Works for Your Mental Health
Do I really need medication to feel better?” It’s a question many people ask when struggling with anxiety, depression, or other mental health challenges. In a world where prescriptions are common and therapy is trending, it’s easy to feel stuck between two paths: pills or practices. This post explores the role of psychiatric medication, what it can help with, what it can’t, and how lifestyle changes, therapy, and self-awareness also play a vital part in healing. Whether you're considering meds, already on them, or trying to avoid them, the goal isn't one-size-fits-all. It's about understanding your unique needs and finding a path that works for you.
The Cost of Keeping Everyone Happy
Why do we crave validation, even as grown-ups? This blog explores the psychological roots of approval-seeking—from childhood conditioning to the brain’s reward system—and why it's so hard to stop. Learn how external validation shapes your self-worth, how to spot approval-seeking patterns, and how to start building confidence from within. A must-read for anyone trying to break free from people-pleasing and reconnect with their authentic self.